I turn to my friends when I need help, so why would I need a coach?

Good friends are important, if not, vital. Most of us have different friends for different things – friends that you go to when you need to talk, friends who give the best advice, friends you have lots of laughs with, friends who encourage you to take a risk, friends that give you the kick up the …

Is the way you self-reflect sabotaging your success?

I recently discovered this TED talk by Tasha Eurich about self-reflection. Unsurprisingly, she says that “people who are self-aware are more fulfilled, they have stronger relationships… they’re more confident… they perform better at work…”. The list goes on. You’d expect that self-reflection would be the key to self-awareness, but what surprised her is that the …

What’s holding you back from making the changes you want in your career and life?

Let me introduce you to your internal saboteur. He/she/it (which is it for you?) is that little voice that chatters away within you, creating anxiety or doubt about something you’re about to do (a big presentation, for example), or something you are thinking about doing (going for a promotion, trying a new hobby etc.).  We …

Why are we afraid to discuss our career ideas with others?

I sort of “fell into” IT and always had this niggle that it wasn’t quite me. I enjoyed the roles I had, but eventually this felt not enough. The ‘normal’ career path (in my head) was to keep heading upwards in IT. And of course the people around me assumed that was what I wanted, as I never shared anything different!
Why was I so afraid to share what I really felt?

“Where do you want to be in 5 years’ time?” The question that makes you tremble & what to ask yourself instead.

Many people, including me, find it incredibly hard to set long term goals. In my previous job, I used to dread being asked the question “So where do you want to be in 5 years time?”. I would come up with some vague answer, based around what I thought they’d want to hear. The problem …